Your body is not for someone else to comment on. Ever. Say it louder for those at the back.
A person’s body is their businesses and theirs alone. And unwelcome, unwanted comments about a person’s body is not only obtrusive, rude and offensive… it’s quite frankly, dangerous.
We seem to live in a society where glossy magazines obsess over ‘beach bodies’, newspapers splash celebs bodies across their pages and scrutinise weight gain or weight loss. Weight loss is praised but also criticised, weight gain is speculated about and trolled. Companies promote detox products and laxatives, we’re told that ‘cheat days’ are okay and we’re sold spiel on TV, radio and on the internet about the ‘perfect’ body and that above all – looking good is the end goal. It’s a lose-lose situation from all sides.
The emphasis on appearance is damaging. We know that. The rise of the body positivity movement has highlighted that and celebs such as Jameela Jamil and the #iweigh movement is breaking taboos, holding influencers and companies accountable and finally speaking out about how wrong it is.
But it doesn’t stop appearance being the first go-to compliment or comment when we get together with friends, colleagues, family members and more.
“You’re looking well!” “You look like you’ve lost weight!” “You look tired.” The list goes on.
It’s time for the narrative to change. Surely? There are better go-to ice breakers or greetings when you meet and greet friends, family, colleagues and more. Ask them how they’ve been or how they’re feeling. Congratulate them on their successes, whether it’s a promotion, marriage, pregnancy or other. Move the compliments and comments away from body image and make them about personality, life and experiences.
The way you look is the least interesting thing about you.