Sh#t your ego says by James McCrae


“The game of life is designed to make us the hero.

We must only be brave enough to play.”

For the past few months, my boyfriend has been bemused and amused by my frantic, obsessive reading habits.

We read different books – I love autobiographies, books on feminism and racism, poetry, and a good piece of fiction – whereas he exclusively reads what I class as ‘self-help’ books.

I won’t lie to you, I’ve always had a pretty dim view of self-help books.

To me, they all seem the same, spouting identical sentiments, without much substance or incitement to action from the reader.

I’m sure the majority are written with the best of intentions, but if it’s anything like ‘The Secret’, chances are, I won’t like it.

But after seeing me blitz through Maya Angelou’s autobiographical series (check out last month’s edition for my review. Spoiler: I loved it), he decided to lend me one of his self-help books that “really made him think” and “changed [his] perspective on a lot of things”.

I was sceptical, but intrigued.

When I saw the title, ‘Sh#t Your Ego Says’, I started to think that maybe this book wasn’t like the others.

“Sh#t Your Ego Says’ plays out like a sort of autobiography of James McCrae (ticking more boxes for me), and his hardships at the beginning of the book – from a successful advertising executive, suddenly becoming homeless, jobless, and with little money – and, instead of lashing out at the world, or making things bend to his will, focusing his energies on himself.

Another thing that sets this book apart from the others is that it’s not patronising to the reader.

I didn’t read it rolling my eyes, or tutting at the obvious statements. 

Instead, I appreciated the no-nonsense approach, the personal element, and the practical guidelines on how to defeat your own self-deprecating, sabotaging Ego.

Now, when I feel beaten down, exhausted, or hopeless about the future (thanks to my two closest friends, anxiety and depression), I take a few moments to breathe, remind myself of that I have, and that I genuinely am dictating how I live my life – no-one else.

There’s just one niggling thing about this book that nibbles away at the back of my mind, however – the use of the term Higher Self to describe the ‘opposite’ part of ourselves in the fight against our Ego.

It feels a little corny to me, and a bit like some sort of god complex.

But, saying that, I do know which part of myself James is referring to – the part of me that knows the importance of meditation, self-awareness, health, and creativity.

The part that knows how to live the life I want to live, without glancing across at how other people are doing. 

The part that creates, imagines, and sees things beyond the physical.

Does this book actually change your life?


Should you expect it to?


The book teaches you that it’s up to you, and you alone, to change your life, if you’re not happy with it.

Happiness is subjective, and we all have different definitions of what makes us happy and complete.

So read this book, stop letting your Ego dictate your life, and take control.

‘Sh#t Your Ego Says’ is available on Amazon and at all good bookshops (RRP £10.99)


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